Stand In Your Space. I received a nice compliment Tuesday morning from a Toastmasters International friend in Raleigh. Dan Scala told me that “I stand in my space when I walk in a room and that my presence makes a difference.” Essentially what he meant was, “I talk the talk and I walk the walk and people notice.”
We are getting ready to charter a new advanced club in the area, and his colleague also mentioned that whenever they needed help, I was there and how much he appreciated that. I arrived at their Toastmasters meeting Tuesday morning a little after 7:30am, which for me as a nightowl is a commitment and somewhat of a sacrifice!
Deliver on Promises. One thing I’ve learned in my years as a consultant is that it is always better to know what you promise and deliver on those promises. It’s one thing to say you support someone, it’s another to actually make a concerted effort to sincerely help others and to actually show up. Sometimes a person who promised you the world six months ago doesn’t follow through on their commitment. Those people just need to be kicked to the curb because they do not live with integrity. They think they do, but rather they live in a self-centered universe that regretfully doesn’t include thinking about others. To stand in your space and live with integrity is critical in this day and age of business where lasting relationships are important.
Honoring Commitments. I have my parents to thank for teaching me the value of honoring commitments and keeping others in mind. In many ways they have always instilled in me a sense of altruism to help others to the best of my ability. My father served in the US Airforce for nine years, and in fact, I am taking a pilgrimage to one of his training sites in Cheyenne, Wyoming next week. I know that he put his needs aside and honored his commitment to serve our country for those nine years. I am very proud of that, and I know he instilled in me a sense of pride and honor of our troops and of our country. Yes, I am a proud American. Even though I’m ethnically Asian, I love my American football and apple pie just like anyone else born in this country. 🙂
Respect for Others. My mother has always been one to donate her time to the community and has always had an open mind to other cultures and lifestyles. She spent many hours helping her church and had a wide variety of friends. Growing up in San Francisco, I was exposed to a variety of friends that my parents had from a variety of cultures, and everyone was accepted equally regardless of their ethnic origin or lifestyle choices. I am grateful that my parents instilled in me those values of pride and respect for others.
Communication Powerhouse Tip: Stand In Your Space and Keep Your Integrity. When Dan told me “I stand in my space”, I know he means that I am true to myself and that I live with integrity. Mind you, I know my life isn’t perfect, and I know I have a long road to travel and have made many mistakes. I will say, though, that I am loyal to my friends and will do everything in my power to help them when asked. So when my friend gives me this compliment, I can only smile as I know that it is not easy to “stand in my space”, but people know that I have strong beliefs that I live by, embrace my uniqueness and do not apologize for the life I have been blessed to live.
- What space to you stand in?
- What values are important to you and how do you live with integrity?
- When someone thinks of you, what comes to mind?
I look forward to hearing your thoughts about how you stand in your space! Comment below or contact Naomi here.